Marriage Corner: Honouring Your Husband – A Journey of Obedience
Introduction
"Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord." – Ephesians 5:22 (KJV)
Recently, I felt a clear instruction from God: "Honour your husband." This wasn’t just a fleeting thought; it was a divine call to align my heart and actions with God’s design for marriage. As I embraced this instruction, I realized that honouring my husband isn’t about losing my voice or identity—it’s about walking in obedience to God, reflecting His love, and creating a home filled with peace, respect, and purpose.
This series, Marriage Corner, is my heart’s offering—a space to share my journey, lessons learned, struggles faced, and victories won as I seek to honour God through my marriage. My prayer is that through these reflections, you’ll find encouragement, biblical wisdom, and practical steps for your own marital journey.
What Does It Mean to Honour Your Husband?
The word “honour” means to regard with great respect, to esteem, and to treat with dignity. But in the context of marriage, it goes beyond just polite words or gestures. It’s about the posture of the heart, reflected in actions, attitudes, and even thoughts.
Biblical Foundation:
- Ephesians 5:33 (KJV): “Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverences her husband.”
- 1 Peter 3:1-2 (NIV): “Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behaviour of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.”
Honouring your husband isn’t contingent on his perfection or flawless leadership. It’s rooted in our obedience to God. It’s an act of faith, trusting that as we honour our husbands, we are ultimately honouring God.
My Personal Journey
When God spoke to me about honouring my husband, I was confronted with my own heart. Was I quick to criticize, slow to appreciate, or dismissive of his opinions? I realized that even subtle actions-not doing what he asks me to do, dismissing his ideas or not keeping his things the way he wants them -were not aligned with God’s call.
As I began to intentionally honour my husband:
- My thoughts changed. I became mindful of thinking respect, support and gratitude.
- My attitude shifted. I actively ensured that I did what he asks me to do each day.
- My action became intentional. I went out of my way to do things I took for granted before, e.g. personally dishing his food and serving him, taking care of his personal things.
Practical Ways to Honour Your Husband
- Speak Life: Proverbs 18:21 reminds us that “death and life are in the power of the tongue.” Choose words that build, encourage, and affirm.
- Show Respect in Public and Private: Always encourage and celebrate his strengths.
- Support His Leadership: Even if you disagree, approach conversations with respect and a willingness to understand.
- Pray for Him: Regularly cover him in prayer, asking God to guide, protect, and strengthen him.
- Appreciate the Little Things: Notice and acknowledge his efforts, whether big or small. Gratitude fosters a heart of honour.
When It’s Difficult to Honour
Honouring your husband doesn’t mean tolerating abuse, neglect, or harmful behaviour. However, in the everyday struggles of marriage—differences in opinions, unmet expectations, or conflicts—choose grace, forgiveness, and faith that God is at work in both your hearts.
Closing Thoughts
I invite you to walk this journey with me as we explore what it means to build marriages that honours God. I look forward to sharing more of my experiences with you.
Thank you for reading this post. If you have any questions or would like to discuss this further, feel free to reach out to me directly at my personal email, rccgprovidence@gmail.com.
